Thursday, June 20, 2019

Three on Thursday :: on my mind


Three things I've been thinking about a lot these days.

1.
This. I'm not a feminist at all, but I can't understand why there must be a difference between men and women in the workplace. Yes, men and women are different and sometimes that makes one of them better for the job, but caring men can be great nurses and strong-minded women can be wonderful CEO's. On the other hand, I also don't think we should place women in higher positions, just because they're women (I don't know about the US, but this happens in the Netherlands). Each job should be done by the best person available, regardless if it's a woman or a man.
I hope that someday gender will not be such an issue anymore. The same goes for race and sexual orientation, by the way.

2.
Aging. Not the physical part, though of course, I feel that too. I'm talking about being well past half your life. Looking back at almost half a century of life and knowing that you still have a lot of time ahead, but not as many years as you've already had. I try not to have regrets (and I don't), but I sometimes feel I'm late to the game, wish I had started something earlier. I guess my mother's condition makes me realize that our time is limited.
On the other hand, it does feel great to decide that I'm too old to change some of my ways (the things that don't harm me or anyone else, like never using patterns or recipes). One thing I've learned over the years is that you can't really change who you are, you can just correct some of your habits. I'm still the girl I was when I was eighteen, I just have a bit more experience. The real goal is to put that experience to good use.

3.
Food. I wrote about this before, but I'm trying to find out what my body needs and what it doesn't cope with very well. Staying away from gluten has proved to be a good idea, but combined with not eating sugar, cheese and soy it's sometimes hard to deal with, especially when eating out. My girls have been through this too, so now I try to do what I've always told them.
Be prepared. Always have something you can actually eat with you, even if it's just potato chips. Have a (small) meal before you go to barbecues or food-related parties, to make sure you're not so hungry that you'll cave and eat the wrong things.
For real and/or formal 'at the table' dinner parties you talk to the hosts - timely, not at the last moment -, explain the problem and ask if you should bring some of your own food.
This works, but it sometimes feels like I'm just making things hard for everybody. And then I eat what is provided to find out a few hours later (or the next days) that I shouldn't have. I really have to train myself to be more mindful of my own needs...

Linking up with Carole's Three on Thursday

10 comments:

  1. Carole's post spoke to me as well. And, your comments on aging are spot on!

    I have become much more aware of food allergies since my partner has quite a few - it is surprising how so few people understand the ramifications of just what consuming something you are allergic to can do. I think it is much of being inclusive of all - you need to be aware of foods for all as well!

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    1. It would be great if people would just accept it, instead of thinking it's all just in your head. Trying to be aware can prove difficult. I was always aware of milk, gluten, MSG and sugar because that's what our family can't handle. But then one of the girls got a boyfriend and he's allergic to some nuts, appels and cherries. My brother admitted he can't eat eggs anymore and one of the girls and I found out we get sick from eating soy. So, more adaptations. I made a master allergylist to keep up with it all. I think the best way to be aware of foods for all is to provide 'build your own' meals and keep the cooking as simple as possible.

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  2. There was a story on NPR earlier this week about aging, and how while some of your cognitive skills start to fade in your 30s, the accumulated knowledge makes up for them. I like that idea!

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  3. Not at all a feminist, no desire to be one in the current climate. I am all for being a personist, yes I just made that up. I am all for supporting persons and making sure all persons are treated with kindness and dignity no matter who they are. I try to avoid putting people in categories, preferring to recognize them as individuals and worthy of respect. As to age, I may feel 58 at times, but then sometimes I act like I am 17, so it's all fun and games until a hip needs replaced. LOL!

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    1. I love that, a personist. That's what I mean. Just see the person, not their gender (or race, or sexual orientation).
      And here's to acting like a 17-year old as long as it's possible!

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  4. I agree - Carole's post definitely hit a nerve with lots of women. While I love having doors held for me, I long for the day when a woman's size/weight has zero effect on her place in the working world. As for aging.... I figure I probably have another 30 years. And I look back on past 30 and freak out just a bit. I seriously need to get busy with my life! And as for food... My daughter has lactose issues and I've become allergic to potatoes... and my husband is constantly bringing home cheesy things for my daughter and potato rolls for me. He just doesn't get it. Sure, we might enjoy that one meal... but we'll pay for it for the next two days.

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    1. Yes, it's not like we don't want to eat it, but the aftermath is no fun. I really miss bread, but if this is what it takes to feel better...

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  5. anything that tastes fantastic and that you can't stop eating it's probably evil food (unless it's a fruit or veg) I can't do huge amounts of dairy. Good luck on figuring it out :)

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    1. Yes, it usually is. I can't handle fruit too well either (and can't stop eating it when I start).
      Thanks! It's hard sometimes, but if it makes me feel better, it's worth it.

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