Tuesday, December 6, 2016

On Tuesday

I know, I'm a day late. But yesterday was hectic and I still wanted to join the fun. so here's my Happy Homemaker's Tuesday.

As I look outside my window:::
sunshine! It's cold and frosty. I love that. So much better than our usual rainy days.
Right now I am:::
At my desk and my bigger screen since we discovered that my laptops screen is giving me headaches. Also, it's better for me to work from a set place, not from the couch.

Thinking and pondering:::
Hmn, I'm not sure if I should elaborate on this, but I'm partly thinking about family, what to accept lovingly  and where to draw lines. And partly about how much priority writing should have in my life. That has been a struggle ever since my first book came out. Balancing ambition (sell more books, make a living writing), reality (I do make money with it, but very little. I do have a publisher and readers, but I'm not at the top of any list) and other important life goals (my marriage, my family, my home) is really hard for me.

On my bedside table:::
Just my alarmclock, but it's running slow (right now it's 17 minutes behind - oops), so I never really use it. My husband has an alarm at his side of the bed and we get up when it goes. It's one of those alarms that starts with a light that keeps getting brighter. It doesn't beep, but plays birds singing louder and louder when it goes off. I have a love/hate relationship with that thing.

On my tv:::
Nothing. I don't even feel like watching youtube.

Playing on the radio:::
Radio 10. They have the Top 4000 right now, running from Nov. 30th till Christmas Eve. The higher numbers are fun to listen to, because a lot of them are forgotten songs that somebody decided to vote for. And getting closer to the top, it's more and more great songs that I love to hear.

On the menu for this week:::
I really don't know. I have some onion stew left over from yesterday, so I guess today I'll add some veggies and have an easy meal. I'm craving simple meals, just mash or something like that, so I guess that's what we'll eat for a few days. We have some great plans for the weekend and will be eating out a lot.

On my to do list:::
- Clean up after Sinterklaas festivities (Saturday we had my extended family over -11 people- and yesterday our own little family -5 people-, fun but messy)
- Some bookkeeping tasks (taxes)
- Deciding on and finishing the last posts for the year on my writer's website

What I am sewing, crocheting, knitting or creating:::
I started a hat yesterday to help me through a difficult group conversation (knitting helps me to focus on what's being said, and protects me from channeling other people's feelings). I also want to start working on a cowl from the lovely skein my sister gave me.

My simple pleasure:::
cleaning up after holidays. I love remembering how much fun we had with every piece of paper I pick up.

Lesson learned the past week:::
That I need to be honest to myself. Even if that means that I can't please everyone.

Looking around the house:::
I think it's good that I already decided to make cleaning and decorating it a priority these weeks. Ahem ;-)

From the camera:::


You know that pain and guilt can't be taken away with a wave of a magic wand. They're the things we carry with us. The things that make us who we are. If we lose them, we lose ourselves. I don't want my pain taken away. I need my pain. (Captain Kirk - Star Trek The final frontier)


  1. I was a day late with my post as well! I had to google Sinterklaas as I wasn't familiar with the term. I think it is sort of like what we call St. Nickolaus Day here but perhaps on a larger scale? Will that be your big holiday celebration or will you also do Christmas? Just curious about the custom. Balance with family and work is such a tough one to achieve, I think we all struggle. Your photo is simply amazing! Hope you have a wonderful week ahead.

    1. Yes, that's the same,
      Sinterklaas is a nickname for Saint Nicolaas. But it's a really big thing here. It starts three weeks before the 5th of December, when he arrives in our country with a steamship and his horse and all his helpers. There are parades in all towns and villages to celebrate that. Children often receive small presents in their shoes during those weeks (according to the legend that what Saint Nicolaas did, he gave some girls their brides money by throwing it through the chimney and into their shoes).
      On December 5th, or a day close to that day, we have "Pakjesavond" (evening of presents). Traditionally children get lots of toys on that evening, like you do at Christmas. Adults usually buy each other smaller gifts and hide it in something else (like a box that is decorated as a laptop, or a snake made from socks... it's hard to explain). Our family is not so good with making things like that, so we only do funny rhymes with each gift, just a little poem teasing the receiver about something in their live and hinting at what the gift may be.
      For us the whole holiday is about having fun and being together.

      We "do" christmas, but on a much smaller scale (though it is shifting in our country, but not in our family). Where I grew up Christians weren't supposed to exchange gifts at Christmas (since we had Sinterklaas for that, Christmas was a religious holiday only), but my grandparents started the tradition of giving all of us a good book or some music and that is what we've been doing with our little family too.
      Have a wonderful week too!

  2. I love your Christmas tradition...and your alarm clock story was so funny...

    ~Have a lovely day!

  3. if you love writing and it brings you joy then you should continue doing it and maybe have the chance at more money. Sometimes trying it out for a set period of time like a year or two will give you more clarity. Also if it makes you happy then you definitely should continue!!

    1. You're so right!
      I love writing and I don't think I will ever stop writing completely (I've written stories since I learned to write). But there are times when I'm too focused on "being professional" and that kind of sucks the joy out of it. That's when I need to rethink what I'm doing...